I loved God, but I hadn’t gotten serious enough with Him to say, “I want to do things Your way and I need Your help.” Some people have been upset for so long that they don’t even realize they’re angry anymore.įor many years, I was angry about being abused by my father when I was a child, yet I wasn’t really even conscious of the fact that I was mad about it.Īlthough I was attempting to be a loving Christian, I was angry and harsh and hard. We need to be in touch with our feelings and take responsibility for them, but we can’t allow them to control us. I’ve learned that God is not necessarily going to change them, but He is going to change me so I can be stronger than they are. The problem comes when we act on those feelings.Īt times, I’ve really wished some of my feelings would go away, but usually they don’t. We’re all going to be angry at times, but it’s not feeling anger that’s a problem. These verses don’t say, “Don’t get angry” or “If you ever get angry.” They say, “When angry.” The Bible says, When angry, do not sin do not ever let your wrath (your exasperation, your fury or indignation) last until the sun goes down. He brought me to Ephesians 4:26-27 (AMPC), and I suddenly saw these verses in a different way than ever before. That day God showed me something that was very life-changing for me. “Anger is not a sin-it is what you do with it that becomes sin.” As the pressure mounted, I started to feel almost frantic when suddenly God spoke to my heart and said: The feelings of guilt not only continued but they intensified. Then my anger turned into guilt and I thought, How can I possibly go to church and tell others how to conduct their lives according to Scripture if I cannot control my anger? I continued to think angry thoughts and have angry feelings. Louis when my husband Dave and I got into an argument. I was preparing to go preach at a ladies meeting at my church in St. I’ll never forget one particular morning about 25 years ago. Now, that’s freedom!Īlong the way, God also helped me to understand that anger in itself isn’t wrong. I learned how to operate in self-control, which means I didn’t always say everything I wanted to say. Thank God, over time He changed me through His Word and helped me begin to manage my emotions through the power of His Holy Spirit. I have a pretty strong personality, so if you said something to upset me, there was a good chance I would let you know about it. I’ll admit, years ago I pretty much did and said anything I felt like. Though it starts as a harmless feeling, it can quickly grow into something dangerous that’s hard to control.īut with God’s help, we can learn how to deal with our feelings and walk in His peace.

We have all experienced anger at some point in our lives, and it can be a real problem.

Uncomfortable conversations with god